It’s been a while since I last wrote. Characteristically I feel much more compelled when things are hard, when I need to vent, reflect, release, and writing has always helped me in that way. So inevitably, once things in my life start to improve, I tend not to share. I put the mental soundtrack on pause and offer up some peace to my quieting brain. I slip into cruise control. I revel in the goodness of it all. I mean, don’t we grow the most when things are really difficult? We impose harsh criticism on ourselves, turn inward, nurture our inner psyches to try to get some answers about what’s transpiring in our lives, and determine the role we have played to make this all feel so impossibly hard. Who the heck sits around when their lives are great, wondering “Wow. Things are pretty awesome these days. I should really invest some mental energy to figure out what the hell is going on here.” It feels fantastic when we’re up. We look inside ourselves when things feel out of reach, out of our control; it’s when we beat ourselves up, when we’re begging the universe to throw us a bone, give us a break. So when that change actually occurs (with subtlety as its best yearbook quality) change starts showing its face again at parties and we hardly notice. Things just feel different. We don’t trust ourselves to look back and remember when things felt any other way, because this feeling is so nice, and we want it to stick around, knowing all too well that eventually the shift will occur again, and the ups and downs of life will persist.
So yes, the past six weeks, I’ve established a nice little existence here in Mwanza. I’ve made some wonderfully caring , generous and supportive friends. I celebrated another marvellous birthday on the continent of Africa karaoking my heart out. I dusted off the running shoes and joined an ultimate frisbee team and began practicing yoga on the beach. I’ve ventured out into the market and forced myself to start cooking anything besides Ramen Noodles. It’s a routine that feels pleasant, comfortable, manageable.
Work, on the other hand, does not feel manageable many days. I’m grateful to be getting this experience—it’s fulfilling, truly…yet ohhhhh sooooo frustrating. The longer I am exposed to development work, the more the complexities of it surface, and the less able I feel to understand my role in this massive industry of “helping people”. The demands of the job are high, for everyone. Stress is fueled by deadlines, reports, and donors. In that sense, I would guess that it’s no different than most jobs. But it’s the bigger picture—remembering that the obligatory tasks and bureaucracy does eventually trickle down to helping incredibly vulnerable people improve their lives. It’s keeping my western expectations in check while learning to adapt to local culture and work ethic. It’s allowing myself to brush things off and recognize not everything is a matter of life and death. It’s looking past the red tape and the protocols and the donor requirements to appreciate the work that we do, and know that while it’s not perfect, it’s certainly something, and a something that is making a significant impact in the world. So, yes. Unnecessary to note, I’ve been flustered at work. Throw-my-laptop-through-the-window flustered. I’ve been on the verge of tears. Many, many times. My tolerance has evaporated. My fuse has shortened to a stub. It was time for a vacation.
There’s a reason why in much of the development world, staff are required to take R&R. Granted, I’m not in Haiti, Darfur, Afghanistan or Pakistan, but after three months in Mwanza, the concept behind it was ringing true loud and clear. Luckily, my birthday coincidentally fell around the time that I was basically ready to claw my face off at the office, and my wonderful father planned a long weekend getaway in Zanzibar for me and a friend. I allowed myself to be intoxicated by the turquoise blue ocean, powder white sand, and palm trees blowing in the breeze. I ate fresh sushi on the beach at sunset. I shopped ‘til I dropped in historic Stonetown. I floated in the warmth of the sea and soaked up the sunshine. I stuffed my gills with amazing food. I drank good wine. I slept like a baby. It was a magical, magical place and simply took my breath away. The island swept me up and renewed my love for Africa. I left feeling revived and recharged. I’ve walked away from the dreamy surf of Zanzibar with this lesson: self-imposed R&R every two months, even if it’s just a weekend to get out of Mwanza and eat fried goat and french fries in a sleepy little town 15 km up the road. Next stop?
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